I’m pretty sure no one likes being rejected. When I ask someone out on a date and they say no, it’s a terrible feeling. When I don’t get the job I applied for, I feel like I have failed. I had a huge fear of rejection when I was in active addiction and well into my recovery because of these awful feelings.
Growing up, kids bullied and teased me a lot. I was small and shy and I was ashamed to be myself. Because of how I felt, I wore different masks depending on who I was with so I could fit in and be accepted. I also didn’t ask anyone out on dates, avoided going to dances or anywhere else that felt socially awkward. Fear of rejection permeated my life!
When I first got into recovery, I tried selling investment products and insurance. But I was so afraid of being rejected, I wouldn’t approach anyone to pitch my goods. My head told me they would say “no” and I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle the rejection without using mood-altering substances to make me feel better.
So in essence, I rejected my potential customers before they could reject me. But I’ve learned that when I don’t ask, I get an automatic “no.” It is hard to succeed with this sort of behavior because I’m assuming everyone is going to say “no” when there are people out there who would say ”yes” if given the chance.
Fear Of Rejection Can Be Acknowledged And Overcome
I was afraid of rejection because it seemed to indicate that I was flawed. I’ve come to realize that rejection is just a part of life. But that didn’t happen without the help of others. My sponsor taught me that it was okay to be afraid. He also taught me that I should get help to walk through my fears instead of running from them. He taught me that it was okay to admit that I was afraid and get help from someone with more experience.
My fourth step, inventory, revealed all sorts of shame and fear that I had no idea what to do with. My sponsor listened to a lot of writing I had done about my fear of rejection. He helped me to find courage to walk through a lot of fear.
How Energy Work Helped Me Deal With Fear And Shame
Right around the same time I read that energy work could remove this negativity from my head. It suggested I could move forward and past the shame and fear that was holding me back from believing in myself and my abilities. I really didn’t know if it would work, but I was sick and tired of running from myself and everything around me. I flip-flopped back and forth many times, carefully considering all the pros and cons of trying something new and different. Ultimately I decided to spend the money and take the risk that it might not work, or that it might. Nothing else I had tried had given me any long-term relief from my fear of rejection. I’m very grateful that I decided to give energy work a try because it has given me true relief from many of my fears.
If you are afraid of rejection like I was, you’d be better off admitting to yourself that your fears are causing you to run from the things you truly want and deserve. Better off admitting that you’re afraid and need some help. Better off working with someone with more experience, someone who can identify and clear the root causes of the fears that are blocking you from your goals and dreams.
A Simple Decision Could Change Your Life
I know through experience that making a decision to better your life is easier said than done. If you’re still reading this then I’m fairly sure you already know how paralyzing your fears are. I wasted a lot of time becoming willing to admit I was afraid. I thought it would make me look weak to ask for help. And my head told me that I wasn’t worthy of any help. It told me that I “deserved the dreadful life I had.” It told me that “nobody would care about me anyway so why even try?”
Those are all lies. All the concepts and ideas that cause us to have crippling fear of rejection? All lies!
Instead of listening to these lies, I found the courage to ignore what my head was telling me. I scraped together some money and traveled to another state to find out if this would be my solution. I met with someone trained in energy work. It took work on my part, too, but it was helpful to have an experienced, trained guide to help me. I’ve been AMAZED at how simple it was for my energy worker and I to make a huge shift in my fear of rejection and the shame that went along with it. It has helped me shift how I act in fearful, challenging situations. Most times I now act on a spiritual principle first instead of automatically picking my go-to character defect to ‘protect’ me.
Let Me Simplify Your Recovery Path
I found the simplyALIGN™ method of energy work to be so life-changing that I decided to get the training for myself. Once I took all the training and practiced on many people including myself, family and friends, I met all the requirements needed to become certified. I take continuous learning every two years to keep my certification active and valid. And now I get to help so many people in recovery walk through the challenges and calm the struggles that they are facing. I am so grateful for being able to guide them through the same type of difficulties I faced!
Would you like to take charge of your life? You don’t have to travel anywhere. If you decide that working with me might be the solution for you, just click here to book a session. I’ll get to the root of your shame and fear. I’ll help you deal with and clear the fear of rejection. I’ll clear the blocks that stand in your way. I’ll help you find your confidence, courage and hope.
I look forward to hearing from you,
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